Many Muslims, no matter what madhab or creed, lack the true understanding of dhikr. We lack it, because the majority of us have evolved it into a mechanical action limited to only prayer, reading Qur’an, dhikr gatherings, and basically any ibadat in the Masjid.
My cousin Adam wrote a short reflection on Shaykh Abdullah al-Haddad’s answer to a sisters question. Check it out here, entitled “Remembering God”. Comments are off on this post, in order to keep the discusion on his blog.