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The Death of Aqsa Parvez

…has nothing do with Islam, but backward WACK Desi culture. Yes Desi! Muslims, Sikhs and Hindu parents from India, Pakistan, and Bangladesh are all prone to this type of anger with their daughters.

Desi culture is good and bad. The bad is obviously clear: honor killings. Muslims do it. Hindus do it. Sikhs do it. Honor killings do not save your honor idiots! They totally kill it and ruin it in front of everyone. What kind of backward ideology is that. “My daughter is dating a kafir! I must kill her to save my honor!” Stupid! Stupid! Stupid! Who came up with this dumb idea? Oh yeah, it’s also forbidden in Islam, just like alcohol and pork.

Many Desi parents form India, Pakistan and Bangladesh have a serious problem when their daughters like a non-[insert religion here] guy. What’s even worse. Many Desi parents are extremely racist. If the daughter likes a Black guy, forget about it. It will be World War 1, 2, 3 and 4! Many Desi parents (regardless of religion) are racist towards Black people and them inter-marrying their daughters and sons. Many of these Desi parents (regardless of religion) are racist towards marrying Arabs, Whites and non-Desi (Indian, Pakistani, Bengali), but not as much to Black people.

There should be some type of new Islamic topic with classes and books: the Fiqh of Parenting. In the case of Aqsa, I blame the parents. I can almost guarantee her parents watched Bollywood films. Yet, the news media claims her father wanted her to wear hijab. How many hijabis are in Bollywood films? For the father to force the hijab on his daughter must mean he was religious. He must have been actively going to the Masjid. Is this true? Did he wear a beard? I am guessing no to most of these questions, because any one who is actively living Islam would not commit such a horrible crime.

To all the major news media networks that are reporting this horrible tragedy as having to be related to Hijab. It has very little to do with Hijab. It’s some really backward pissed off Desi father who can’t control his daughter and lost his anger and killed her. Her father was probably most likely extremely angry she wasn’t being ‘Muslim’ enough. It was beyond hijab. Her father needs to learn how to be a parent.

To the father of Aqsa Parvez, I doubt you will read this, but all I can say is: fear God, for God is the Most Just!  The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him said): “Whoever hath a daughter, and doth not bury her alive or scold her, or prefer his male children to her, may God bring him into Paradise.”

Side Note: To be fair, parents from Afghanistan and Middle Eastern Countries are also prone to this type of mental issue, but in the case of Aqsa Parvez it was the Desi mental issue.

Another good read was posted on MuslimMatters.org here.


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    1. khalil abu asmaa December 13th, 2007 at 3:44 am

      Bismillah.
      As-salamu alaykum…

      Some other thoughts to consider in the analysis of this issue:

      http://muslimahmediawatch.blogspot.com/2007/12/real-tragedy.html

    2. Doa December 13th, 2007 at 5:48 am

      SubhanAllah.
      Makes me extremely grateful for my non-crazy Desi parents. They weren’t thrilled when i started hijaab, but they’d never kill me for it..or for anything for that matter. Alhamdulillah. My dad once mentioned to me that the Pakistani Constitution has mention of honor killing being legal, and that it still has not been changed. Allahu ‘aalim.

    3. Amir December 13th, 2007 at 10:32 am

      It’s a shame what happened, I happened to know someone online who were friend of her and she stated that media exaggerated the story. Although, She did have problem with her parents, particularly her father but it wasn’t about wearing Hijab. She wanted freedom and it was refused by her parents that lead her to move out and she just happened to go re tribute her belonging from the house at wrong time –

    4. .. December 13th, 2007 at 11:49 am

      There are always two sides to issue and im sure there is more to story then just her reluctance to wear hijab..
      OF COURSE, NOTHING can justify killing a soul..however if she moved out in quest for ”freedom”(probably wanted freedom to do not very halal things) then i can understand why her father lost his cool…

      subhanAllah only he used that anger when she was young to train her in her duties to Allah swt. A women doesnt wear hijab for another human being (she wont be rewarded if she wears it for any other reason then to please Allah)

    5. MysticSaint December 13th, 2007 at 2:10 pm

      brother salaam. with all due respect may i request you to drop the name of Bangladesh from the list of countries you mentioned. belonging to the (indian) sub-continent and being muslim majority nation, doest automatically get an inclusion. we dont kill our daughters and sisters in the name of stupid tribal fanaticism. thank you. no offense meant.

    6. Mujahideen Ryder December 13th, 2007 at 3:13 pm

      MysticSaint on December 13, 2007 at 2:10 pm said:

      brother salaam. with all due respect may i request you to drop the name of Bangladesh from the list of countries you mentioned. belonging to the (indian) sub-continent and being muslim majority nation, doest automatically get an inclusion. we dont kill our daughters and sisters in the name of stupid tribal fanaticism. thank you. no offense meant.

      JazakAllah khair. To exclude a whole country would be unfair. All Muslim countries have this problem. Even Arab countries. From what I hear some Bengalis like to throw acid on their women. Which is evenly stupid and ridiculous. These people are far from Islam. They need to go back to the first level of madrassah.

      And Allah knows best. May Allah (swt) guide the ignorant to the truth. Ameen!

    7. firoz ali December 13th, 2007 at 4:39 pm

      Islam is a jewel buried in a deep pile of garbage. The Quran does not contain any of this nonsense about hijab, only requires modesty

    8. mallapottell December 13th, 2007 at 5:01 pm

      The hijab marks those wearing it as chattel, leashed to their men as surely as if they were wearing a dog collar.

      Being a ex muslim myself, I could agree more with the above statement. Islam is a cancer in the society and I advise you guys to come out of it before it destroys you. Let humanism be our religion

    9. Mujahideen Ryder December 13th, 2007 at 5:06 pm

      mallapottell on December 13, 2007 at 5:01 pm said:

      The hijab marks those wearing it as chattel, leashed to their men as surely as if they were wearing a dog collar.

      Being a ex muslim myself, I could agree more with the above statement. Islam is a cancer in the society and I advise you guys to come out of it before it destroys you. Let humanism be our religion

      Thank you for your advice, the Islam I learned about and continue to study and currently am trying to live is perfectly fine with me. There aren’t any issues with women wearing Hijab and the Muslim men I know don’t use it like a dog leash. In fact, my mother does not observe hijab, but I can almost guarantee that she is more religion that 70% of the hijabis that I know. My father has not forced the hijab on my sister. She wore it on her own. In fact my dad said are you sure you want to do this to her when she put it on. My dad is extremely religious and strict. He is beard wearing, daily masjid going, 5 times a day Muslim.

      May God guide us all and forgive us all. Ameen!

    10. ahmad December 13th, 2007 at 8:07 pm

      I totally agree. Islam doesn’t have room for racism. It’s so hypocritical for desi parents to do haram things and say that they are Muslims. Placing culture before your religion is transgression.

      Honor killings is one way the media will portray the Muslims as bad people. But this time, it’s not THEIR FAULT. The Muslims in Asia are the problem, and they always will until their balls drop and realize that they what they are doing is haram.

      Stupid, man. It’s just so stupid. Stupid people that claim the title of a Muslim, I hope they all die. Being a Muslim is the most honorable thing in the world, and to have a group of people spoil that name makes me puke.

    11. RAFIA December 14th, 2007 at 4:19 am

      for the person who said you have to hear both sides of the story thats bull. Because no matter what the reason was that stupid man did not have the right take a life of 16 year old girl. It is only up to god to give life and to take life. That man disgusts me. Even if he doesn’t get severe punishment from court he surely will from god. She was a teenager!! Like any other teenager she wanted freedom, this is the rebelious age. If her father had a problem with it then he should of talked to her about it and when that didnt work he should have gone for help or counselling as to how to be a parent or something. This is freaking Canada there are so many options at hand, he did not have kill that poor girl. Looking at her pictures makes me so upset. I hope that bastard goes to hell and as for her brother he should go to hell too! He probably did all of things himself as a teen who knows. stupid double standards!

    12. LivingHalal December 14th, 2007 at 4:42 am

      It’s so ironic, at the time of this news, there are so many Muslim sisters who want to wear Hijab but…

      Check this story:
      http://livinghalal.blogspot.com/2007/12/hijab-stories-compare-and-contrast.html#links

    13. Yisrael Medad December 14th, 2007 at 6:10 am

      Desi or not, how many other religions besides Islam do you know that institutionalize “honor killings” on the level we have been witnessing?

    14. DW December 14th, 2007 at 11:59 am

      Yisrael Medad on December 14, 2007 at 6:10 am said:

      Desi or not, how many other religions besides Islam do you know that institutionalize “honor killings” on the level we have been witnessing?

      really now,

      “The Roman statesman Marcus Cato once said, “Ifyou catch your wife in adultery, you can kill her withimpunity; she, however, cannot dare to lay a finger onyou if you commit adultery, for it is the law.”4Thisstatement was consistent with the status of women inRoman society. A father held the power of life anddeath over his daughter, and upon marriage that powerwas transferred to the daughter’s husband.5Femaleadultery was a felony under Roman law, and the stateactively prosecuted family members and others for nottaking action against adulterous female relatives.”

      Honor killing has left it’s roots in many cultures, it’s happening in many places around the world along with demostic violence. Best action is not to just condem honor killing only, but to stop demostic violence against women and children. THAT happens everywhere in the world, no matter what religion it is or culture.

      “Yet honor killings are not solely a Muslim phenom-enon and have been experienced in many culturesthroughout time. The Germanic tribes of WesternEurope, as well as the Chinese, Japanese, and otherAsian cultures legally sanctioned the killing of unfaith-ful wives by their husbands to protect family honor.63Even in the United States, until recent times, wifekillings by husbands were not considered a crime insome jurisdictions”

    15. DW December 14th, 2007 at 12:00 pm

      forgot to link the source

      http://66.102.1.104/scholar?hl=en&lr=&q=cache:aFyn_nYrikgJ:www.puaf.umd.edu/faculty/papers/Sprinkle/PUAF_650_Sprinkle/04a_Goldstein.pdf

    16. Mujahideen Ryder December 14th, 2007 at 12:52 pm

      Yisrael Medad on December 14, 2007 at 6:10 am said:

      Desi or not, how many other religions besides Islam do you know that institutionalize “honor killings” on the level we have been witnessing?

      It has nothing to do with religion. It’s all cultural. Muslim, Hindu, Sikhs, Christian who are Pakistani, Indian, Bengali, Afghani, etc. usually have this ‘honor killing’ system. It’s 100% cultural. It’s not from any religion, nor is it backed by any religion. It’s straight up bias, racism and hatred of other people.

      Although the majority of the Parents from these various cultures do not practice this, thank God, it still exists in some families. Israelis are also prone to this. You won’t find a daughter of an Israel Jewish family marrying a Palestinian Arab guy. She’d most likely get like what Aqsa Parvez got. It does happen.

    17. Dotsson December 14th, 2007 at 2:27 pm

      Honor killings have a lot to do with Islam. This practice is more prevalent in the Arab world than it is in the Indian Subcontinent. In the case of India, dowry killings are more common than honor killings. I.e. if a bride cannot meet the required dowry demands, she is killed.

      In the case of Islam, it is emphasized repeatedly that a woman must not reveal herself, must obey her parents/legal guardian. So even though the Quran doesn’t say “go strangle your kid to death if they disobey you”, many people, especially rural hillbillies, will interpret certain verses in a wrong way.

      I’m not saying the Quran affirms honor killings but in a way wrong Quranic interpretation is one of the reasons for such behavior. In this case, scholars need to speak out and condemn such behavior. If we can set up Quran schools in rural Afghanistan, can’t we send out a few people to teach these people how to treat their women?

    18. Mujahideen Ryder December 14th, 2007 at 4:44 pm

      Dotsson on December 14, 2007 at 2:27 pm said:

      Honor killings have a lot to do with Islam. This practice is more prevalent in the Arab world than it is in the Indian Subcontinent. In the case of India, dowry killings are more common than honor killings. I.e. if a bride cannot meet the required dowry demands, she is killed.

      In the case of Islam, it is emphasized repeatedly that a woman must not reveal herself, must obey her parents/legal guardian. So even though the Quran doesn’t say “go strangle your kid to death if they disobey you”, many people, especially rural hillbillies, will interpret certain verses in a wrong way.

      I’m not saying the Quran affirms honor killings but in a way wrong Quranic interpretation is one of the reasons for such behavior. In this case, scholars need to speak out and condemn such behavior. If we can set up Quran schools in rural Afghanistan, can’t we send out a few people to teach these people how to treat their women?

      Muslims smoke weed, drink alcohol and curse. Does that mean Islam allows this? People can say Islam is all about the heart. “I can drink alcohol and smoke weed, just as long as I am good person.” That is justification using Islam right there. Is that right? No!

      Honor killings have nothing to do with Islam or any other religion.

    19. The Aqsa Parvez situation « Reliant Traveller December 14th, 2007 at 4:54 pm

      […] Mujahideen Ryder addresses the root of the problem in his blog. Its more to do with South Asian Culture than Islamic law. I shouldn’t dwell on that though as I’m not South Asian so and its not my place to comment on a culture i’m not a part of. […]

    20. Asim December 14th, 2007 at 5:00 pm

      firoz ali on December 13, 2007 at 4:39 pm said:

      Islam is a jewel buried in a deep pile of garbage. The Quran does not contain any of this nonsense about hijab, only requires modesty

      The Quran does actually use the word hijaab. Similarly, our Prophet (pbuh) told us about the hijaab.

    21. tawheedullah December 14th, 2007 at 5:56 pm

      mallapottell on December 13, 2007 at 5:01 pm said:

      The hijab marks those wearing it as chattel, leashed to their men as surely as if they were wearing a dog collar.

      Being a ex muslim myself, I could agree more with the above statement. Islam is a cancer in the society and I advise you guys to come out of it before it destroys you. Let humanism be our religion

      I’d bet good money (not really, just using an expression) that mallapotell is really some basement-dwelling white Christian man with a boner for Robert Spencer.

    22. tawheedullah December 14th, 2007 at 6:00 pm

      Yisrael Medad on December 14, 2007 at 6:10 am said:

      Desi or not, how many other religions besides Islam do you know that institutionalize “honor killings” on the level we have been witnessing?

      There is nothing “institutional” about it. The ulema (Muslim Scholars) are against it. Islam forbids all extrajudicial killing.

    23. Dave Lucas December 14th, 2007 at 6:10 pm

      Islam did NOT kill this girl, no more than Christianity killed Megan Meier!

      Keep in mind this is a single instance of a crime. Compare it with the video that pops up now and again of a stalker abducting a young woman who is later found dead. Aqsa Parvez’s death is NOT a normal “islamic event.” I remember a kid in 1st grade whose Christian mother forced him to kneel in rock salt when he was bad until his knees bled. When he was 12 she beat him so badly he lost hearing in one ear. Parents are sometimes overprotective, sometimes STUPID, like the woman who created the phony MySpace page that led to the suicide of Megan Meier. But that’s another story…

      http://dave-lucas.blogspot.com/2007/12/double-life-of-aqsa-parvez.html

    24. dloa December 14th, 2007 at 6:19 pm

      So if it’s not about Islam, then how come there are many Muslims on many Islamic message boards justifying what the father did and blaming the girl for this? This GupShup thread shows that there are a lot of lunatics that claim to be Muslims who blame the daughter for this. Case in point, read this post by a poster named Hyperactive. This is what he said:

      I looked at the girl’s picture…There’s more to this than the media or Muslim bashing Muslims would have us believe…

      I don’t believe it’s a mere matter of Hijab…No matter how ignorant a Muslim is, he would never resort to murder for Hijab…

      And as with any Muslim family, no one would admit to their daughter carrying an illegitimate child in her womb…They would rather lay the blame on a family dispute or quarrel after killing her for honour…

      And is there any surprise that people are connecting Islam to this, when there are many Muslims who would support and sympathize with the father?

    25. Mujahideen Ryder December 14th, 2007 at 6:25 pm

      dloa on December 14, 2007 at 6:19 pm said:

      So if it’s not about Islam, then how come there are many Muslims on many Islamic message boards justifying what the father did and blaming the girl for this? This GupShup thread shows that there are a lot of lunatics that claim to be Muslims who blame the daughter for this. Case in point, read this post by a poster named Hyperactive. This is what he said:

      I looked at the girl’s picture…There’s more to this than the media or Muslim bashing Muslims would have us believe…

      I don’t believe it’s a mere matter of Hijab…No matter how ignorant a Muslim is, he would never resort to murder for Hijab…

      And as with any Muslim family, no one would admit to their daughter carrying an illegitimate child in her womb…They would rather lay the blame on a family dispute or quarrel after killing her for honour…

      And is there any surprise that people are connecting Islam to this, when there are many Muslims who would support and sympathize with the father?

      Do you expect every single damn Muslim in the entire world to please you? Do you expect every single human being to agree with you? Do you expect every single religion’s followers to be perfect human beings?

      Give me a break. Islam has nothing to do with honor killings. MUSLIMS DO! Islam is not the problem, its the followers who are ignorant and uneducated.

      I am a Muslim. I condemn honor killings. It is forbidden (haram) in Islam. There is no room for this. The father should be held accountable for his actions in the Canadian court system. He has to obey the laws and he must receive the punishment from the Judge. Zero tolerance for honor killings and domestic abuse.

      Almost anyone can use any religion to fit his desires, but no religion will save him from God’s Justice. They can do what their heart’s desire, but when they are in front of their Lord, they will have no where to run.

      God knows best. May God forgive us all and guide us all to the truth.

    26. soulja December 15th, 2007 at 1:24 am

      MR check out the article that Altaf Husain wrote

    27. Adl December 16th, 2007 at 1:41 am

      You know whats so funny,
      the story of this girl’s death leads the non-muslims to call muslims bad, and non-“brown” muslims to call brown/desi ppl bad. Everyone just keeps findin someone to point at, no wonder there is so much hate.

    28. Aysha December 16th, 2007 at 1:58 pm

      the situation in fact, had nothing to do w/ Hijab, freedom or anything. The touble within the family was triggered by these factors but the cause of her immediate death was because she had been raped. her brother saw her as a “disgrace” and he took his anger out. The father than took responsibility of the crime because he was old and had a heart condition, whereas the brother had his entire life ahead of him. I think the brother is out on bail now becuse there wasn’t enough evidence against him. Allahu Alim

      It’s the nature of the media to keep the story revolved around “Hijab” and pin point Muslims.

    29. Shockwave December 16th, 2007 at 7:54 pm

      Actually,

      Islam IS responsible for it still.

      It was the invasion of Muslims (and Victorians), that the people of sub-continent became prudish. The status of Women was at its peak before the arrival of Islam in the sub-continent. They brought most (if not alL) arab traditions along with them, including the purdah. Hindu women in Rajasthan and its bordering states still hides behind purdah. It was the Muslims AND victorians who vanquished gay and lesbian freedom, sexual freedom, etc and encouraged the gender bias throughout their rule in the sub-continent. But times are changing and thank god women are starting to gain their respect again, people are starting to get open-minded (atleast in India), in short, its a humble beginning to the journey back to India’s roots.

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    32. me October 16th, 2008 at 11:09 am

      this is just stupid killing your own daughter for not wearing hijab they
      need 2 understand the daughters feeling i know u should follw what ur parents say but they have a choice of how dey want 2 live

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