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It’s on Digg.com’s frontpage right now. If it reaches a 1,000 diggs it’ll probably be in the top 10 for the week.
Muslima.com is wack! Why? They don’t have privacy policies when it comes to profile pictures. Even non-Muslim related sites like Facebook and MySpace provide this option. Then again if matriomonial sites didn’t prodive pictures of the members then no one would join. I guess that’s why all the sisters are wearing niqab. I never liked the Muslim matrimonial sites.
In my personal opinion, Facebook does a lot better job in hooking up Muslims than any Muslim marriage site. Don’t lie! You know you Facebook’d your wife/husband and/or fiance/fiancee and/or future prospectives. For the brothers, they love to see the sister has only sisters on her wall (but yet the brother can have sisters on his wall). For the sisters, they love to see that in all his pictures he’s with only brothers. Actually I just made those up, I have no idea what brothers and sisters expect.
This is not a pro-Facebook-Marriage-Seeking-Machine post, but Facebook has many more advantages than any Muslim matrimonial site. How many people do you know are registered on any of these Muslim matrimonial sites? How many people are your friends on Facebook? Bingo! That’s the halal jack pot right there. It’s all about connections. How many marriages do you know have happened through connections rather than matrimonial sites? In fact how many marriages do you personally know came out of these matriomonial sites?
The real question is who uses these sites? And why?
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Oh, and I tried nikah.com, shaadi.com, and match.com - only match.com seemed to have any promise, and eventually I met my wife through it (though also kind of through yahoo.com since she didn’t have a paid match.com account).
You just found this now? This is old news.
The greatest problem and greatest solution for our Ummah is: sex
Sad times.
Dawud - It may be old news, but for Digg it’s brand new!
You know a lot of Muslims talk about arranged marriage, saying its so terrible because you don’t know the person you are marrying (which isn’t in Islam at all) - but for the sake of argument what’s the diff between these crappy sites and arranged marriage. Quite frankly I thinks it’s totally haram and immoral to scan through a catalog of people looking for the best face you can find to marry.
And what’s more annoying? - the advertisements with a giant picture of a “Muslim” girl - what are they trying to sell here? A service for marriage for Muslims who can’t find a mate - or a site where you can judge a bunch of people for how they look.
For all those people at Digg who think this is new : you might want to watch this vid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hgRFVDc7z48
Muslimahs use the sites because they have no other options. It’s very difficult getting married in the US. We already have a very limited pool and certain brothers also have specific requirements like age, skin color, nationality etc. Luckily for them they can go overseas to get married or marry non-Muslims but we can’t. This is the only option some sisters have. May Allah help us find righteous spouses whatever the means inshaAllah.
As salaam alaikum
u shouldnt knock those sites down, i have heard of many people who have found their prospective spouses on eharmony, match.com, or even naseeb.com.
We dont have any better alternatives unfortunately…
Meanwhile why dont people try out HAhmed.com Halal Hookups?
jk
Oh, yeah, I was on Naseeb and not Nikah.com
what about the view that Allah will fix someone for you if it is destined? If not He will not. Even if you do not search whoever you are destined to marry and at the right time will turn up.
I have been divorced now for 6 years and still have not come across even one suitable person in those years, my patience often fails but what can one do….these marriage websites are rubbish I agree.
The good news is I am getting old and hopefully soon the need for marriage will be lost.
Kearns and H. Ahmed - You guys didn’t read my post carefully. I am talking about Muslim matrimonial sites. Eharmony and match.com are non-Muslim sites. They probably do a much better job than Muslim ones. Naseeb.com was useful in the past pre-facebook of course. In 2008, though, it’s a different story. Right now all those Muslim matrimonial sites are pretty much wack in my personal opinion. All of them are into making money instead of hooking people up.
Oh no, I read it. My point was like yours, I found match.com to be a much better site than Naseeb.
I know a handful of couples that met through naseeb.com or other Muslim matrimonial site but you’re right, most Muslims meet through connections.
When I first came across that site (completely accidentally), I wondered if that was even halal. I still seek an answer to that question.
I guess a lot of people use them and we don’t know how much. Most of muslims i would say use facebook more than myspace. its more halal than myspace. But when you are looking for a mate, you gonna search everything!
One thing I did is explored that website and guess what I found?
I found one of my friend’s profiles LOL. You should do the same–trust me, it’s a big laugh !!
i love how ur calling muslim marriage networking sites whack (i totally agree!), but at the same time i see the ads for them on ur webpage…lol…what gives?
Afshi - You can report them so MR blocks them. I think he does that for Halal Tube:
http://www.halaltube.com/report
For the brothers, they love to see the sister has only sisters on her wall
Actually, the ideal sister wouldn’t be on fb to begin with. And if she did, she would have only sisters as her friends. lol.
not only should a girl have only girls on her wall, she should have only girls on her friends list. or better yet, she shouldn’t even be on fb to begin with…
“The real question is who uses these sites? And why?”
Reverts to the deen, and anyone else who is not that well connected to a Muslim community. Muslim matrimonial sites are just one way to make the initial connection, nothing more. People in larger Muslim communities have access to “auntis” and imams and others who can help them find a spouse, but there are many people who don’t have access to that, nor do they have Facebook profiles full of eligible bachelors and bachelorettes.
It’s not the right solution for everyone, but it certainly is not the worst thing in the world.
Faraz - The aunty/uncle/family/imam connection is also not as popular. Muslims use instant messaging, Facebook, MySpace and other social outlets that allow users to have more privacy than these Muslim Matrimonial sites. They also provide a more realistic look to the person than the matrimonial sites.
So has this actually worked for anyone?
I’ve tried every route under the sun. Matrimonial sites, parents, friends connections and so on.
Im not looking to do something that goes against the grain of islam, but its really difficult these days to meet people, especially if you dont reside in a large muslim community.
To be honest? Match.com may have been the vehicle, but there is no doubt in my mind, or my wife’s mind, that it was all the hand of Allah. Prayer, prayer, prayer and the rest will find a way…
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